Tuesday, August 11, 2009

When Chaos Reigns

Mindy here. I don't know about you, but lately I feel like life is running amuck and I'm just doing my best to keep up. Kids, events, tasks . . . CALGON TAKE ME AWAY!

So what's a girl to do?

While a Calgon bath would be lovely, it ain't gonna happen. So I have to create a little (and I do mean little) alone time in a house full of people. Sometimes it's a quick trip to the store, radio blaring, playing my favorite tune. Other times it's staying up a bit later than everyone else, or simply laying in bed awake, enjoying the silence. Today, my fourteen year old son entertained my two year old granddaughter for about thirty minutes, allowing me to slip into the other room long enough to hear myself think.

It's so easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of life. It makes taking time for yourself imperative. What do you do to insure you get a little ME time?


  1. My husband and I made a deal after we had kids. We allow each other about an hour and a half once a week to just relax and do whatever we want (or need). It's wonderful. Though, when he's gone, there's not much I can do but take advantage of naptime...which seems to be getting shorter and shorter.

  2. Ralene, that's a great idea!

    Mindy, I think you found your solution: use the boys to help you! And if needed (like, maybe you need to bribe them), pay them a little to babysit. :)

  3. I like your idea too. For me, raising 6 kids and working was a lot of love and a lot of, well, work. So I'd sneak off to a matinee when things were just getting too much. I almost always picked a comedy. I made an appt. with myself and told my family I had an appt. Then off I'd go to keep that appt. with my sanity :-)

    I came home smiling and refreshed from 2 hours of laughter.

  4. Ralene, I wish I would have thought of that when my kids were little. Great idea.

    My entourage is mostly grown now. At least they're all self-sufficient. But that doesn't mean they don't still need tending. Our two-year old granddaughter is living with us for several months while her mama serves in the US Navy. Throw my elderly mother into the mix and, well . . . lately I feel like I'm being pulled in a million different directions. So those decompression times are REAL important.

    Missy, I have "hired" them on numerous occasions. I'm not above bribing. How do you think I got my youngest son to join me on that long road trip this past weekend? I cannot begin to fathom six hours on the road alone with a two year old. Nuh-uh, no way!

    Let me just inject, that while things are crazy, I wouldn't trade any of it. I need my gang as much as they need me. However, they do better with a sane me :-)

  5. My kids were recently reminiscing about a couple of times when they were little that I went off to my bedroom and closed myself in and cried! Oh my. I do remember a few of those times. I just hate that they remember!! :)

    I guess I needed more coping strategies back then. LOL So your ideas are especially great for those with little ones or with other daily pressures, Mindy.

  6. Mindy, I smiled when I saw your reference to Calgon. My daily "Me Time" happens at the end of the day when I head for the tub, sprinkle in the Calgon (no kidding) and enjoy a chapter or two of the latest romance from my TBR mountain.

    Another way I take time for myself is walking to town. I get a break from the computer screen, get outdoors and get some much-needed exercise. While on my walks, I have time to think, although often my characters decide to chatter, telling me where they think I should take their story next. :)

  7. when the kids were in school I used to hurry and get most of my housework done before I carried them to school and then I had the rest of the day to do as I pleased, but now they are all gone and have lives of their own and it is just my hubby and me, He has been reitred for 7 years and I still have not gotten used to him being in and out of the house. He brings in so much dirt and trash on his feet that I can't keep the floors clean, He is an outside person and always in and out, in and out and it really gets to me. I was wishing the other day he would go fishing for a few days and just let me have some alone time, I really miss that. He always wants to know what I am doing and where I am, if I am in the bathroom he comes down the hall to see what I am doing, I just can't handle this. I love him and like for him to be home some but I am so glad when he goes somewhere like right now he is gone to walmart and I can write without him looking over my sholder saying who are you writting too? Oh well I have been married to him for 48 good years and he is a good Christian man and always been a good husband and father so I should be ashamed but I still like my alone time. How many more of you retired ladies are like me, it is really hard,


  8. That's funny, Keli. About the Calgon:-) And what great ideas to gain your ME time.

  9. Edna, I never thought about things from that perspective, but you are so right. We don't like to think of our husbands as needy, but sometimes I think they're more needy than we are!

    My husband offices out of our house. When he first moved his office home, I gave him strict orders that he was not to mess with my schedule. He does pretty good, but every once in a while (this would be when our granddaughter isn't here and the kids are all gone) I'll catch him hovering or reading over my shoulder. I love him dearly, but HELLO! :-)