Thursday, May 17, 2012

Moms...and Sons

Missy, here. I just got back on Monday from spending the weekend up in Durham, NC, for my son's college graduation. What a thrill! Here's a photo (with Cameron Indoor Stadium behind us--one of his favorite places of his college career). :)

There's something special about mother-son relationships. And it was really difficult when he moved over five hours away to go to Duke. It just felt like the family wasn't complete once he left. It took a good while for me to go to a restaurant and ask for a table for four instead of five (and to not cry when I did so!). Each time he comes home to visit, I feel like everything is it should be.

But now that's he's graduated, he's taken a job up there. He's in love with Durham. And more, he's in love with a young woman who he's dated for three years who's still in pharmacy school at UNC. So North Carolina is now his home. As I flew out on Monday morning, looking at the beautiful scenery, I felt sad. But I also felt good that he's in a great place with a wonderful girlfriend--a place where he's extremely happy.

And isn't that the whole point? To see them through to adulthood, praying they'll meeting the person God intends for them, praying they'll be happy and productive and giving, serving the Lord in all they do.

Sunday after graduation, he came to the hotel to give me my Mother's Day card. I was impressed that he even remembered with all that had been going on. The card made me cry. It says:

Mom, You were the first woman in my life. And what a woman. Strong, kindhearted, and good. Most of all, loving. And today, I hope you know how much I respect you and love you for the amazing woman and mother you are. Happy Mother's Day to the first lady of my heart.

Yeah, there's something special about a mother-son bond. Something that will last a lifetime.


  1. Missy, what a great picture! And I LOVE your dress.

  2. I'm starting to relate. My oldest will graduate high school this time next year, then head off to college. I've been teasing him for the past 12 mths, as we've gotten deeper into the college admissions process, how much I'm going to miss him and how much he's going to miss us.

    It's starting to get serious, and I know I'm going to miss having him, the one that's been with me the longest, around. But yes, this is what we've hoped, dreamed and prayed for all these years.

    Pass the tissues...

  3. I'll take those tissues after you, Patricia. Missy, what a great photo and what a great son you have. You've obviously done a great job. As a homeschooling mom, I can relate to how you're feeling. When my son graduated 'home' I had a tough time adjusting to our little triangle being just me and my daughter. But now with her graduating next month I've really got a lot of adjusting to do. But like you said, that's what we're supposed to do. See them through to adulthood and pray for the right person(people)to come in to their lives, for them to be productive and serve God and community.
    Congratulations to your son and to you as well!

  4. Missy, you and your husband can be proud of your son. Obviously he's a great guy--he appreciates his mom!

    You both look terrific, happy and proud. College graduation is a special time. Wishing your son all the best in his new adventure!


  5. Thanks for stopping by, Cara! I love my new dress. Bought it just for graduation since it was cool and comfortable. :)

  6. Patricia, my middle child will graduate from high school along with your oldest. We'll share a box of Kleenex next May/June! :)

    You know, it's funny. My middle son keeps asking me if I think it'll be as hard for me when he leaves, doing it the second time around. And I tell him YES!

  7. Christina, I can't imagine how it would be after homeschooling and having them at home with me all the time! I know you'll miss her!! I can't imagine the empty nest. I still have a daughter who's a freshman. I don't have to think about it for a while. :)

  8. Janet, thank you! We're so blessed.

  9. Congrats on your son's graduation, Missy! Enjoyed see you two smiling and so happy.

  10. Thanks, Pam! I know you've enjoyed the mom-son bonds as well with your boys. :)

  11. I cried when I dropped them off and then cried when they graduated...

    Such a sap! Missy, I love that pic of you and Nick! Such a beautiful family, and it's an emotional tug-of-war to have them successful and ...

    far away.

    Sigh. Good job, Mom

  12. I cried at both, too, Ruthy. But cried most when we left him on campus his freshman year! That nearly tore my heart out. Do you know how long of a drive it is back to Georgia when both mom and dad are bawling halfway home?!

    But we lived. And we didn't go back and pick him up to bring him home. :) And now he's better off for it. And I imagine, so are we. :)