Thursday, June 14, 2012

Making Changes for Love

Missy, here. I've been scarce this week, trying to finish making changes to my book, Georgia Sweethearts, that's due next week. I got two excellent critiques, and now I'm making changes. LOTS of changes! :)

Since we're talking about weddings this month, the word "changes" makes me think of all the little ways we change when first married. We love our spouse enough to learn the art of compromise. But once the honeymoon is over, and we settle into the everyday routine, it can throw a wrench in our happiness. We have to find a way to live together.

Maybe that means sleeping on the opposite side of the bed from what we've always done. For husbands, it may mean learning to leave the toilet seat down! Then there are food adjustments (his mom put three home-cooked meals on the table every day for his whole life and his wife doesn't know how to cook!). Other examples:

Night owl marries early bird.
Slob marries neatnik. (Or as I prefer: piler marries a filer).
Sports lover marries someone who prefers to clip coupons on Sunday afternoon.
He needs total darkness to sleep. She likes to read herself to sleep.
Mountain lover marries beach lover.

And on and on. But somehow, love makes the compromise worthwhile. And eventually, the husband and wife adjust and find their groove.

I have almost 26 years experience of living with someone who is my opposite in a lot of ways. It's not always easy, but sometimes a little change can be good for us. :)

What about you? How have you or someone you know had to change to make a relationship work?

1 comment:

  1. Hi---my hubby was used to dessert after every meal. I don't do dessert very often. And when i do, it's store bought.