Wednesday, June 6, 2012

Wedding Traditions

Angie here: What wedding traditions are a must for you?

Are we too set on what we think are wedding traditions to save relationships? One thing I noticed in planning weddings (mine and other family) was the amount of emphasis on certain traditions. Individuals thought certain practices were crucial or the wedding would be ruined. A diamond engagement ring? That  practice is only about 80 years old!

Angie's engagement and wedding rings.

Most wedding traditions we think are old are really very new. The bride's white dress is not an ancient tradition. The diamond engagement ring is not an ancient tradition. In fact the diamond engagement ring is the most successful ad campaign I've ever heard. It started because the powerhouse diamond company wanted to sell diamonds. They created a campaign ad around it in the 1930's. Over the years, the campaign grew and people started buying diamond solitaires as engagement rings.

I do wish I'd known that when I chose my engagement ring. I might have chosen a Montana Yogo sapphire or a beautiful ruby. I love my ring set though because my children and my stepchildren are included in the wedding band through their birthstones. We wanted our children to know they were a part of our marriage. I like how we were able to include them. It's our own message to ourselves, our family, and the world.

Do you want to be different? Do you want to make your rings significant to your marriage and personal relationships?

Did you know the tourmaline comes in every color?

Did you know emerald is only one color of beryl?

Did you know there really are authentic pink gemstones? Look up the Kunzite.

Choose any stone you want as long as the stone has a hardness factor to withstand daily wear and tear. Be sure to investigate and ask your jeweler before you buy.

You can find some more information on the Mohs Hardness Scale. But any stone above a seven can be a daily stone. Emeralds are about 7.5 on the Mohs Hardness Scale. Anything below may scratch or shatter on daily use like an opal or peridot. These stones should be worn for special occasions or a synthetic stone used in place of the authentic stone for daily wear. Another thing to be aware of is how the sun fades some stones like the amethyst.

Choose for significance, but also ask the questions for longevity.
How does this stone wear?
How does soap or chemicals affect this stone?
Does this stone scratch, fade, or shatter easily?
Does this stone have any flaws?
Does this stone have special storage or cleaning?
What do I need to know about this stone?

Now you're at least off to a good start.
Make your wedding ring set significant to your relationship, not just what other people think about traditions that aren't really rooted in tradition. When you choose based on the message your ring will send every day, you've created a symbol that becomes a powerful ally.

If you'd like to know more about some amazing gemstones and how they relate to your faith life, their historical significance, and more I wrote about them in Gems of Wisdom: For a Treasure-filled Life. 


  1. Angie, that's so interesting about the stones! I didn't know that about the hardness scale. I did buy myself a small emerald ring when I was in college, and the first day I wore it, the stone hit something and broke down the middle! Thankfully, they replaced it. But I was horrified! A scary moment. For that reason, I love diamonds!

    1. That's a good reason for asking the jeweler to tell you about the flaws of the stone. It's possible your emerald had a flaw that made it more vulnerable.

  2. Ang,
    I had no idea about the diamonds being a new tradition. Thanks for sharing all the info. Very interesting. I may have my daughter read it. :) Or her boyfriend, rather. ha!