Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Guardians of Purity author, Julie Hiramine

Angie here: 
Please welcome our guest blogger, Julie Hiramine, author of Guardians of Purity.

Julie:
I read an interesting article in Time Magazine (August 27, 2012 issue) about our use of mobile phones. I found the statistics about kids and cell phone use particularly interesting.  One info-graphic stated 73% of 18-24 year olds use their phones to flirt, while 48% send suggestive and inappropriate pictures. 

I looked at my 5 year old, innocently reading a book in my office, and wondered what it would be like by the time she reaches that age. Questions and doubts clouded my mind. How could I help her and her 8 and 11 year old sisters navigate this technological maze that would honor God, not only now while they play angry birds on my phone, but in the future when their choices could lead to inappropriate pictures or sexual encounters. 

The landscape is constantly changing, especially for our children.  It's not the same world we grew up in.  Our kids need Mom and Dad to live out Duet. 6: 7, “Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” 

The word of God needs to be poured into their hearts and become the foundation for their character.  This isn't going to be something that's successfully completed by their Sunday school teacher or their Christian school. This takes Mom and Dad making an intentional effort when it comes to being a guardian of their purity. This battle for their minds and hearts needs to begin early. “We need to be on the offensive of gaining ground in our kids’ hearts and minds that the enemy is trying to steal. Far too many well-meaning parents wait until the enemy has moved in and stolen territory belonging to God before engaging in this battle” (taken from my book, Guardians of Purity).

Keeping ahead of the curve in the tech arena:

Ø    When we give our kids a phone, we are handing them a computer.  We might not use it that way, but they will find every way imaginable it can be used!
Ø    Look at the monthly bill.  Be sure you recognize the numbers called and texted each month.
Ø    Keep a cell phone charging station in the kitchen or better yet Mom and Dad’s room.  Kids get into more trouble at night on cell phones and they need a good nights rest.
Ø    Have rules for pictures taken, posted, and sent to friends.  If it’s not okay on the big screen at church (i.e. the screen at the front with the worship lyrics on it) then it is not okay to send or post anywhere.
Ø    Keep tabs! Keep it simple! The best phone for a young teen or a tween is simple and straightforward. They can grow into one with all the bells and whistles later.

What ideas work best in your family to keep tabs on their cell phone use?

About Guardians of Purity:


Raising PG Kids in an X-Rated World
This world we live in is reaching into the hearts and minds of our children, shaping and molding them into a replica of its values, trends, and worldviews. Guardians of Purity gives you practical advice to help you stand against these destructive cultural influences, showing you how to:
 
·        Become an effective gatekeeper of your home
·        Have age-appropriate conversations about sex starting when they head out the door to school
·        Help teens walk out a lifestyle of purity and integrity

Julie Hiramine is the founder and executive director of the ministry Generations of Virtue that equips parents to empower their children for purity in our world today. As an internationally noted speaker, author, and Christian leader, Julie has encouraged and impacted parents and teens both in the United States and internationally through her speaking and written materials. Julie graduated from Pepperdine University with dual bachelor’s degrees in nonprofit business management and sociology. Julie and her husband, Kay, have five daughters: Brianna, Stacia, Alissa, Hana, and Mikayla. 

5 comments:

  1. What a great post. My kids are grown and married, and I didn't have the cell phone issue with them growing up. It's all I can get my son to do to use his now! :)
    But I think the guidelines you posted are spot on for today's kids in this crazy cell phone world.

    I wonder about communication. How some people that I know now, don't want to verbally communicate. But I guess that's a whole other post.

    Thanks, Julie!

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  2. Hi Angie and Julie:

    This is a much needed book. And while I think it can help to talk to kids, they do best when they come to their own conclusions. This is why I think it is so important for Christian writers to write stories that show kids making the wrong choices and then showing how that hurt the characters. This is a way to give the kids a ‘I wish I knew then what I know now’ experience that they will listen to.

    Writing like this for young people is so powerful an influence that Plato wanted to ban poets and story tellers from his Republic because he could not trust what they would tell the kids. Show the kids the consequences of bad choices among their peers. Let the kids use the same arguments they do use to dismiss the warnings their parents have told them about.

    I think writers of children’s books have the greatest responsibility in our society.

    Vince

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  3. Lindi,
    Thanks for your comment. I agree with you that especially the next generation tends to text rather then talk! It is so important to teach our kids that real relationships happen in the real world, not just virtually.
    Julie

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  4. Vince-
    I agree with you that it is crucial to know what our kids are reading. If you have readers, like I do, it is often times difficult to find great literature with a Godly worldview. It would be wonderful if there was more written out there!
    Julie

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  5. Julie, thanks for visiting our blog today. I have two teens still at home and try to keep vigilant. Thanks for sharing your tips!

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