Is it awful to be someone who really doesn't like Valentine's Day?
I admit to being a Valentine's Scrooge.
Funny for a romance writer to admit, isn't it?
But to be fully transparent, I love romance. I just don't like forced romance. I happen to have a very romantic fellow for a hubby. He does things all year round that makes me feel loved. So this year I asked him if we could just ignore the trumped up holiday. We both work. We both have a really stressful week going on. The day falls on a day I work late into the evening.
To me romance isn't something you do on a day because everyone else is doing it. In fact, we have tried to go to dinner. But the restaurants are so busy, they are noisy and waitstaff tries to push everyone out the door to seat the next in line for service. Romance can be quick, but not when it's perfunctory and rushed.
So then we tried just staying home and having a romantic meal. You guessed it. The phone rang all night, the kids needed something, and the world didn't seem to think it should stop intruding.
Year after year it seems this one day is somehow not quite up to expectation. Valentine's Day has too much expectation assigned to it. Finally I asked myself, why am I trying to force a set time and place that doesn't fit my life or my expectations for what romance means to me? Eye-opener!
There you have it. I am abdicating from Valentine's Day. No more expectations for THE perfect romantic moment because someone else says it should be that way. I'm abdicating from Valentine's Day in search of those special moments that catch me by surprise instead. The moments when my hubby's eyes crinkle in a genuine smile that takes my breath away because he's smiling at me. The moments when he scoops me up in a surprise kiss in the kitchen. The moments when we sneak away from the world to be together.
I'm abdicating from Valentine's Day to celebrate love year round without the pressure of commercials, public expectation, and noisy dinners in crowded restaurants. Flowers and chocolates are okay, I like chocolate. But I really like his smile and attention much more.
Oh, and those roses in the picture? Those were so romantic because they weren't on Valentine's Day.
Those roses were on the day I didn't win an award I really wanted. He told me I'd won in his heart. Aw, I melted.
What do you think about Valentine's Day?