Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Rewarding Behavior

Angie here: Do you reward your children for good behavior? What about yourself?

Child giggles while turned upside down photo
Rewarding good behavior with play!
Photo courtesy of Cowan Creative

I'm finding so many people will care for others, but forget to care for themselves. A lovely friend had an accident. She felt it was minor. On seeing the injury, I reacted in shock. I asked her if she'd been to the doctor.

"No, it's not really that bad, is it?"


"I don't think I need to go to the doctor. It doesn't really hurt."

Then two other friends began helping to convince this dear one she needed to see a doctor immediately. She went at our urging.

I realized had the injury occurred to one of my friend's family members, she would have rushed them to the ER. But she didn't do that for herself. And she's not the first! I've had to convince several women (friends and clients) to go to their doctor for injuries or illnesses they minimized. Why?

I'm finding some people minimize their own needs for so long they no longer recognize their needs at all. Others come first in the extreme and to the exclusion of health. How can you be a good steward of your body if you aren't taking care of it?

How would you help a friend recognize their need for either medical care or self-care?
How do you recognize your need for self-care?

1 comment:

  1. Angie, I think you're right. I think we also tend to downplay our own problems because we're embarrassed or feel fear about facing them.

    I once had chest pain I ignored because I thought, surely it's not really my heart. Thought I'd feel stupid if I went to the doctor and found out it was a pulled muscle or something.

    We shouldn't let anything stop us if it needs to be checked. We need to measure by how we would treat a loved one with the same symptoms. I would have been furious if my husband ignored chest pain!