Have you ever gone hungry? Not for a skipped meal, but because sometimes food is skimpy? Or non-existant?
Growing up, my mom wasn't mentally healthy. I often went without food as a child and teen because she didn't have work. Fruit and veggies were a splurge.
Then as a single mom, I often went without so my kids could eat. But sometimes the food was skimpy so I could pay a bill. Now when I have a lot of fruits and veggies I feel so rich.
Every now and then I lose track of time when I'm deep into a project. I actually forget to eat. Not because I'm not hungry. Because I'm so focused on making the finished product perfect and in on deadline. I'll get to the food eventually.
An oddity I've developed from these life experiences is that I'm not worried about food. It doesn't much matter to me if I'm eating a full steak meal or a bowl of cereal. It's just food to fuel my body. If the food is good, I can go into rave reviews and be in a very grateful attitude. But I'm really okay with cereal or a bowl of soup for dinner.
I've noticed the people most worried about food, and their next meal, are those who have never really missed a meal by force. Meaning they've not starved--and survived. They just haven't faced that fear.
My hubby and I talked about that one day. He couldn't remember ever going without food while I have memories of days and sometimes years where food was very sparse. I've watched friends eat lunch as a kid and had none.
Consequently, we determined the fear of no food was deeper in him than in me because I'd gained the confidence I could survive while he'd never had to-even though there were plenty of meals he didn't like. There was always a meal, and he'd never gone without.
What a fascinating discovery! But it fits what I teach about confidence completely. We gain confidence by facing challenge. Each time we succeed, we are stronger until we can act without thinking with confidence it will be okay. Self-talk takes over as we consciously or sub-consciously remind our inner self we've done this before and we've succeeded.
What about you?
What challenge have you faced that seems like the result should be fear rather than confidence you can overcome?