Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Sometimes Food is Skimpy

Angie here:
Have you ever gone hungry? Not for a skipped meal, but because sometimes food is skimpy? Or non-existant?

Growing up, my mom wasn't mentally healthy. I often went without food as a child and teen because she didn't have work. Fruit and veggies were a splurge. 

Then as a single mom, I often went without so my kids could eat. But sometimes the food was skimpy so I could pay a bill. Now when I have a lot of fruits and veggies I feel so rich.

Every now and then I lose track of time when I'm deep into a project. I actually forget to eat. Not because I'm not hungry. Because I'm so focused on making the finished product perfect and in on deadline. I'll get to the food eventually.

An oddity I've developed from these life experiences is that I'm not worried about food. It doesn't much matter to me if I'm eating a full steak meal or a bowl of cereal. It's just food to fuel my body. If the food is good, I can go into rave reviews and be in a very grateful attitude. But I'm really okay with cereal or a bowl of soup for dinner.

I've noticed the people most worried about food, and their next meal, are those who have never really missed a meal by force. Meaning they've not starved--and survived. They just haven't faced that fear. 

My hubby and I talked about that one day. He couldn't remember ever going without food while I have memories of days and sometimes years where food was very sparse.  I've watched friends eat lunch as a kid and had none. 

Consequently, we determined the fear of no food was deeper in him than in me because I'd gained the confidence I could survive while he'd never had to-even though there were plenty of meals he didn't like. There was always a meal, and he'd never gone without.

What a fascinating discovery! But it fits what I teach about confidence completely. We gain confidence by facing challenge. Each time we succeed, we are stronger until we can act without thinking with confidence it will be okay. Self-talk takes over as we consciously or sub-consciously remind our inner self we've done this before and we've succeeded.

What about you?
What challenge have you faced that seems like the result should be fear rather than confidence you can overcome?


  1. Yes! You are so right! My husband doesn't get the food thing either because they always had enough.

    We weren't as blessed or maybe we were, we didn't starve to death but there were many times where food was just enough or we skipped meals-like breakfast and lunch (my mom and I) to make sure there was enough for my younger brother.

    Now I can eat the same meal every day for lunch and dinner and just not care.

  2. What a great point. I've never thought of it that way (having always had plenty). Thanks so much for the insight, Angie and Diana.

  3. BTW, I love your photo, Angie. Green things make me hungry for greens! :)

  4. I had a teacher/coach who told me there was no one in my high school that had to work to eat like I did. Her naive belief blew me away. Until I grew older and understood she'd never experienced it and lived in a neighborhood where it wasn't the norm. She was so young, she'd never experienced mental illness or family challenge like some of her students. There are many, many reasons for people lacking food and finances. Yes, it's right here in the US and we can't assume everyone always has enough or that it only happens in drug infested places or that "they brought it on themselves". It's really intriguing that in our country, we have such a variety of experiences. I think that's something that would surprise the world, who see us through very different filters. It's so human to lump groups of people into pots and think they're all the same. But we can only understand that which we experience. My biggest piece of understanding came from talking with my hubby who didn't understand why I always give away so much food. I think it comes down to the fact that I really do trust God to provide food for me and so I provide for others as He's given me the ability to do.

  5. Thanks, Missy. I just took that with my iPhone when I was making a juice recipe. I really do feel rich looking at that picture. As a kid, maybe one of those foods would have been on my counter, if I was lucky. I can imagine how someone feels in another place who has only had rice or milk for days, if they're lucky. I understand. I've done that too.

  6. Angie, your story made me think back to elementary school field trips. I can remember my mom always packing a huge grocery bag of food (the big size we used before plastic bags) when I went on school trips. Everyone else had their cute little lunch bags. But I had to take a huge brown bag full of food. I would always be so embarrassed. But she said she wanted me to take extra for kids who might not have anything.

    I had forgotten all about that. And now you've made me understand better.