Friday, December 27, 2013

Life without Facebook

Life without Facebook?

Does it exist?

Can it be possible?

Why yes... it is possible and I'm living proof.

As you know, Facebook is a form of social media. It's a unique platform where you can visit your friend's pages and see their latest pictures and post stuff. You can join in the conversation by inserting your comment. You can chat with friends you haven't seen in decades and get to know new ones. You can "like" a ton of things from your best friend's comment about her favorite candy bar to what your favorite celebrity is talking about.  You can "follow" others - like authors, musicians, radio personalities, and a variety of companies. And perhaps you use an App on your phone where you play a game and your score gets posted on your page. Well, then your friends can join in the game and play with you.

Before you know it, it's 1 a.m. and you can't remember what you had for dinner.

What day is it anyway?

I had a lot of fun while I was on Facebook. I friended every writer I knew and more that I didn't know. I found high school friends and kept up with my daughter's cheerleading squad. I was tagged in a bazillion photos from elementary school to high school to family pics.

You know Facebook is popular when your husband's grandmother is on there and keeping up with her church friends.

Even my very private husband got a Facebook account. Hubby found it enjoyable for a minute, but he didn't really see the importance of "connecting" with so many people. He's a call people up on the phone type of guy. Our reasons for deactivating our accounts were privacy-geared. While you can control your privacy to an extent, it's harder to control your privacy through others.

I'll admit, I went through withdrawals at first. Not having the latest information upon log-in was tough. But as with most habits, once you do without something for a period of 3-7 days, the habit gets easier to avoid.

You become the odd-man-out. Everyone else is on Facebook - even your mother. Everyone at work has a Facebook account. Everyone on the cheer squad has one. Everyone at church, and so on...

"You're not on Facebook?" People would reply in surprise. How can I not be on Facebook?
I'd shrug and say, "I don't have time for it."
That's the easiest reply. And its the truth. I don't need that form of distraction. I have enough to keep me busy. If I have a free hour in my day, I need to spend it on other things - like doing dishes, vacuuming, reading a Bible devotion, catching up on the local news (which can be quite depressing), or reading a book. Gosh, will all of my free time, I may be able to write my own book.

Which brings me full circle. Should I ever become published, the need for a Facebook account will be required. It's that whole self promotion thing. It's why there's 30,000 blogs out there and basically the majority of us are saying the same thing...
Should I ever become published, I shall accommodate my schedule for Facebook.

For  now, I will be joyful that I'm the odd-girl-out and happily say, "Nope, I'm not on Facebook." That means I may have to Tweet something to someone, email them, write them an old-fashioned letter, or Pin them with something on Pinterest. Or, (Heavens to Betsy!), I may have to use the telephone and call them.

How about you? Are you caught up in the thrill of Facebook, or are you over it?

Sincerely yours,

Christy LaShea
Find me on Twitter: @christylashea & Pinterest
Blog: At Split Ends



  1. I really enjoy facebook, but I completely agree with you. It's difficult to make room in life for social media. And, it can be a little crazy. Ironically, I'd been thinking about blogging on NBCs newest shenanigans. I logged into our blog and found this from you. Amazing how it parallels my thoughts on TV. We can all do too much of anything. Choices have to be made for our families and life styles to accommodate real living, not just digital life. :) Nice post!

  2. Thanks Angie! I'm now curious about what you are talking about concerning NBC...will look forward to more on that topic :)

  3. I somehow missed this post! Christy, I hardly ever get on FB anymore. Maybe two or three times a week. It's enough to feel connected but not taking too much time. I tend to get on there when I have a bit of free time or want to share something fun.

    1. It can take up a lot of time if you're not careful. I met a non-writer friend that I hadn't seen in a while and usually our communications were through social media. She told me she missed seeing me on Facebook and my comments. She noticed I'd been active on Pinterest though ;)